A: Life in general is a series of dramas tucked into small packages of “time”. Life is a study in relationships, some being broad studies may take an entire life time or two, while others are more specialized and require only yourself, or yourself and one other.
A series of relationships, that is life. For first you would relate to physical life, and the physical world. Then would you relate to large groupings of humanity (villages, communities, parents and families, churches and employers). Then do you relate to less animate objects, such as power, fame, money, control. Within the 4th cycle do you turn your focus on relating to those close to you; your family, friends, spouse, etc. Those in the 5th cycle become interested relating to all, to finding that link that relates one with another, whether it be a person, a tree, a thought, etc. They wish to understand the relationship of all.
Monadal relationships take a particular type of relationship and study it close-up and in much detail. They create a template or structure where the goal is to understand certain attributes or attitudes or relationship interactions. They allow the primary participants to create the drama as they wish. It is considered “completed satisfactorily” when both participants acknowledge an understanding and awareness and acceptance of those concepts they wished to experience. If either participate understands not, then the relationship will be experienced again. This will occur as often and as many times as they wish, until both agree that they have had enough.
Single monads, as opposed to couple monads (those requiring two primary participants), are those relationships being experienced by you with you. For you may find yourself disdainful of those whose “beauty” meets not your internal standards. This may result in several outcomes, but they all come back to you working through a relationship with yourself while trying to retain or obtain that idea of what is truly beautiful. The key to most single monads is acceptance, for until one can accept themselves for what and who they are, do they have a difficult time in accepting others; but the lessons (in both single and couple monads) focus on particular issues.
Perhaps you have little tolerance for those with HIV or some other affliction. You may find yourself “forced” (by essence’s choice) to care for those individuals so as to learn and understand. Or might you “poison” your own body with your own vitriolic attitudes until your body begins to destroy itself (such as with cancer, leukemia or ulcers); then to cure yourself, do you need to understand, recognize, and acknowledge the reasons for the illness, for only then can you begin to accept yourself and others.
When working with others (in a monad), do you focus on lessons of trust, understanding, acceptance, balance, caring, sharing, etc., for always will one take one extreme while you take the other. Then will you both work to reach a point of balance, a point of understanding.
Most monadal lessons begin early on, for very few first cycles can function well without a mentor. Therefore, do you find most first cycles working with those “older” (fourth or fifth cycles) in the mentoring, protecting type monads. These help tremendously in their understanding and development of trust, and physical plane acceptance.
The second cycles often work through monads such as the prisoner/guard, hunted/hunter, hidden/seeker, for these teach them the acceptance of rules and disciplines.
The third cycles will often work on those monads of powerful/powerless, famous/unknown, for these teach the value of compromise, acceptance, and balance.
Those within the fourth cycle, tend toward those monads such as loved/unloved, abandoned/abandoner, honest/corrupt. That is because they teach the value of life, of people, of balance.
Those in the fifth cycle tend towards teacher/student, parent/child, etc. because they show the value of sharing, giving, and balance.
A monad is like taking a large piece of a life and placing it under one of your microscopes, for it focuses the experiences towards a particular goal, the goal of understanding balance and acceptance. Each monad’s structure brings to bear different aspects of human life, and focuses your attentions on them. They help you (all of you) obtain broader perspective when done in the late third through fifth cycles; and they help you gain that needed narrower perspective when done during the first through mid-third.
So, first do they help you to focus on your chosen here and now, and then do they help you to push those self-imposed blinders away, and see the whole picture once again. But always are they your choice, and always is it your choice to participate within the physical plane.
The very first relationship within the physical plane is you with your environment. That this includes not just the land, air, water, and those that dwell in and around these, but also the form, is true, for this is the first relationship that must be accepted and understood. With one’s focus “aimed” at the form and the physical plane, do you lose that maneuverability, that freedom, that broad-base of perspective and knowledge that you come to rely on. For your world has now become narrow–extremely narrow, and your actions are dictated to you by the form you now “wear”. No longer do you “see” and know all, and no longer can you “hear” all the musics and sounds that you had. Now must you find ones that will feed and nurture and care for you and this new form, for you find that the form (in this stage) cannot support itself in obtaining food and vanquishing hunger–a concept, until now, you never knew or understood. Nor can this form right now put on the clothes or take off the clothes to maintain the body’s temperature–another experience that is new.
Now do you find that the form has limitations and restrictions, but also does it offer new and interesting sensations–touch, taste, the ability to see in a new unique way, the ability to hear sounds in a way never known before. There are sensations of movement, hunger, thirst, hot, cold, and even pain. So, always is the first relationship one of becoming accustomed to self and the environment. As the form changes, so too, does the environment.
For those willing to explore and try those challenges and opportunities, a first life can be filled with wonders. However, those more “fragile” may find the physical plane harsh and hard, and the form cumbersome and awkward. Some may retreat, leaving the form autistic (in your terms) and mostly abandoned, for they would maintain the life but would remain astral rather than within the physical form upon the physical plane.
Others find that not having obtained all the “understanding” needed before incarnation, do they remain too “open”, thereby allowing the “noise” of all those around them to frighten them inordinately. These, again, may retreat to the astral, or if older (in physical age), might they escape to the forests or other areas not occupied by people, for their affinity would be more attuned with those of nature such as birds, rabbits, squirrels, and wolves.
Once the “newness” of the body has been understood and the functions and care learned, will the relationships progress to working and cooperating with those of family and tribe/village. For rarely will you find these early souls in large towns or cities, as they understand not and dislike immensely large groupings of peoples and complex rules and structures. Rather will they spend the next 5 or 10 lives learning to work within those structures of family, tribe and village, for these are smaller and with rules and structures more stable and fixed.
So, now do we have a first cycle who has spent between 15 and 20 lives within the physical realm. Now do they begin to approach those lessons of working within organizations other than family. As second cycles, do they now begin to try and obtain jobs, go to school, and participate within a church or other religious organization. Because now are they seeking to find those structures and rules most accepted by society and culture. So now is the relationship one of “fitting in”, of “being part of the group”.
It is during the early to mid part of this second cycle of relationships that you will find those who “challenge” the rules. Like any other child, they will push the boundaries, if no punishment is forthcoming, will they push again. They will continue this behaviour until and if they are “caught” and punished. This behaviour includes serial criminals, child molesters, habitual liars, some kleptomaniacs. Once the rules are reinforced, will they begin to conform.
Also at this stage, do they find it difficult to maintain any kind of close relationship, for their skills with people are still rudimentary. They may drop jobs, leave a wife–especially one who is with child, for the fear of interaction at those levels is far too strong.
As they reach the end of this cycle, do they begin to stretch into the realm of recognizing the rules and seeing how others bend or disregard them without getting into “trouble”. Also at the end of this cycle, will they find it less fearful to work on those relationship involving more intimate groups, for now they understand the relationship between society, culture, and themselves, and can now concentrate on those relationships such as with co-workers, spouses, families, etc.
Having reached third cycle, and now understanding the basic rules and structures enough to “survive” (on the planet, within the culture/society, in the family and at the work place), do they turn their attention fully on the world they have chosen. This then becomes the cycle wherein relationships with “things” become most important. For now do they find that there are “objects” here that can be useful to own, for there is power, money/wealth, fame/attention, sex, drugs, illicit games, sports and athletics, etc. The relationships become more intense, for the belief in anything more than what can be seen, touched, tasted, heard, spoken, is gone. Therefore, the only relationships are those of acquisition, conquering, and competition.
Again, as the third cycle wanes, does the awareness of more besides objects grow. So, now do they begin to place value on people rather than things. Within the fourth cycle, do you find much emotionalism, for there are many lessons regarding relationships with people–families, co-workers, friends, neighbourhoods, etc. But the earliest part of their relationships is fraught with emotions and dramatics, even those not “normally” given to overt reactions, will be more prone to emotionalism. This is because the fourth cycles are learning about relationships between people and emotions.
By the fifth cycle, the dramatics are waning, and the relationships are reaching out to encompass nature and all of her creatures, not just people. At the later part of the fifth cycle, is the relationship with everything–all things physical and non-physical, for awareness of something more, of something beyond the physical plane has “returned”.